We cannot obtain happiness by pursing it. It is already within us. Most of us attempt to find it “out there”. The pursuit of happiness assumes that you are looking for it somewhere outside yourself. How can you pursue something that is within you?
Looking outside of yourself for happiness is never going to bear fruit. It is like the person on his hands and knees under a streetlight looking for his keys. Along comes one of his neighbors and joins the search. After 10 minutes, the neighbor asks him, “Are you sure you dropped them here, they don’t seem to be anywhere”. The guy replied “Oh no, I dropped them in my house, but the lights are not working and I cannot see a thing in there, so I thought it would be easier out here!”
It might be easier to look outside of you; however, there is no point looking outside if what we are looking for is inside. Why would you search for something that you already have? Most of us suffer from the “I’ll be happy when syndrome”. You think you will be happy when:
- You are richer
- You weight less
- You have the perfect relationship
- You go on a dream vacation
- You get a larger house
- You get the new car
- You get the college degree
- Your kids are all grown up
- You are retired
- You get the job
- You get the raise
This is backwards. You will not become happy when you get these things. Sure, they may bring you short-lived happiness. You become happy and then you will obtain those things. The pursuit of happiness is actually inhibiting you from being happy. This is very important to understand and was a big aha moment in my life. I kept achieving more and more of my goals and became increasingly unhappy. This shift in thinking has made a big difference in my life.
If you base your happiness on situations, events or things, you will only be happy when those situations, events or things go your way. What happens when you lose any of these things or they no longer hold any interest? Look within yourself to be happy.
Life is about the journey, not the destination. How many of you often say you cannot wait until the weekend…until Christmas…until tomorrow? Are we wishing our lives away?
Be happy right now–why wait until the weekend!
If you have things in your life that are not going the way you want, it is important to find a way to feel happy regardless in order to change these circumstances. Do this instead of changing the circumstance in order to feel happy.
The most awesome thing about being happy is just how simple it is. We do not have to go somewhere or get something to have it. It is the minor things–a touch, a laugh, a song, a sunrise, or a kind word that brings the greatest joy.
A happy life is stringing many of these small moments together.
If you want to know how to achieve happiness, just decide to be happy in this moment.
Formerly an IS Consultant designing and implementing global enterprise solutions for Fortune 500 organizations, Rachel Lavern is a Certified LifeSuccess Coach and a business partner of Bob Proctor. She specializes in using success principles to help people live without limits via workshops and keynote speeches across the country. Her mission is to teach women entrepreneurs and business owners wanting to earn a six- or seven-figure income how to become WILDLY SUCCESSFUL at selling.