The easiest way to ensure that you show up in the world the way you want to is to be a good self-regulator.
Today I will share a quick tip for boosting your willpower and encourage you to use it in your life.
Effective Goal Setting Increases Willpower
It is not a lack of self regulation that stops people from meeting their goals–it is faulty goals. Research shows that positive phrasing, primers and accountability are key!
Example: Say I was struggling with getting to bed late at night because I was still working and my desired behavior was to be in bed at 10pm.
A bad goal would be, “I am not going to stay up late tonight.” Why? Because it is framed in the negative. You can boost your self-regulation and support your set goal by flipping it to the positive.
A good goal would be, “I will shut down my computer by 9 pm and start winding down for bed.”
The next component is to use primers. A primer is anything in your environment that reminds you of your goal.
My primer, or outside stimulus, would be an alarm to go off on my phone at 8:45pm.
The last component is have accountability. This means have a living, breathing person know about the goal. This person should be someone who cares about you and is willing to follow up with you about your goal. Partner with a friend, coach, family member, neighbor, colleague or anyone you know who wants to support you.
For my goal, I committed to text messaging my coach as the computer was shutting down that my goal was met.
What is your self-regulation soft spot (the thing you have a hard time getting yourself to consistently do)? Describe it below in the form of a positive goal, tell me what your primer is and what kind of accountability you will put in place to help you meet your goal.